We all have it. That little voice in our heads that seems intent on making us feel bad about ourselves. What does yours say? That you're not good enough for your job, perhaps? That you're too fat or not curvy enough? Whatever negative thoughts you have the chances are millions of women are having the same ones.
In a world dominated by beauty and success, with movie stars and pop singers adorning the papers and TV channels, it's hard not to strive to be, well, perfect. And as a result negative thoughts can take over. But you don't have to live with them. These helpful tips will teach you how to banish negative thoughts and get on with living a happy life.
Surround yourself with positive people
If you're already beating yourself up about things you are not or things you can't do then surrounding yourself with more negativity is only going to make you feel worse. Your friends are the people who should be able to pick you up out of a slump and cheer you up. If you're spending time with people who, instead, drain your energy and make you feel worse then it's time to find a new social circle.
Take positive action
If you are feeling down because of a problem at work or because you've put on weight instead of beating yourself up about it you should take action to resolve your problem. Even the smallest step forward is a step in the right direction. Pop on an exercise DVD and do a workout or go for a long walk. Make a list of the things you have to do at work, prioritise the ones that you must do and then delegate the rest. Just do SOMETHING.
If you spend most of your spare time just sitting around, doing very little, you're leaving yourself an awful lot of time for negative thinking. Have you ever noticed, when you've got a problem, that doing something fun or just keeping busy can help take your mind of it? Well the same theory works here. Read more, watch a film, go visit some (positive) friends or simply spring clean the whole house. By keeping occupied you give yourself less time to dwell on positive thoughts.
Remind yourself of positive points
Ok so maybe you don't have perfect thighs and maybe you're not the high flying career woman you thought you would be by now but that doesn't mean you don't have lots of positive qualities. Make a list of all the things that are good about you. Are you particularly generous or kind? Do you make the best cakes? Are you a whiz at math? Make a list and read it to yourself every morning to remind yourself how great you are.